It is perfectly safe to have sex during pregnancy. Your partner’s penis cannot penetrate beyond your vagina, and the baby could not be affected. However, it is normal for your sex drive to change and you should not worry about this, but do talk about it with your partner.
Later in pregnancy, an orgasm – or even sex itself – can set off contractions (known as Braxton Hicks contractions). You will feel the muscles of your uterus go hard. There is no need for alarm, as this is perfectly normal. If it feels uncomfortable, try your relaxation techniques or just lie quietly till the contractions pass.
Your obstetrician will probably advise you to avoid sex if you have any heavy bleeding in pregnancy, since this risks infection in the baby – especially if your waters have broken.
Some couples find having sex very enjoyable during pregnancy, while others simply feel that they don’t want to have sex. You can find other ways of being loving or of making love. The most important thing is to talk about your feelings with each other.
While sex is safe for most couples in pregnancy, it may not be all that easy. You will probably need to find different positions. This can be a time to explore and experiment together. Even early in pregnancy it can become uncomfortable to have sex with your partner on top. This can be because of your bump or because your breasts are tender. It can also be uncomfortable if your partner penetrates you too deeply. So it may be better to lie on your sides.
Dr Efterpi Tingi
Consultant Obstetrician and Gynaecologist
